At what age should a girl or woman be before starting to explore sex? The social mores of each girl’s family, community, and society will likely determine when she is permitted to become sexually active. Western society certainly does not permit girls to be sexually active right out of the womb. Two factors, puberty and peer pressure, usually determine the age at which girls become sexually active. Whether a girl’s female friends are sexually active or not plays a larger role than puberty. The younger a girl is when she enters puberty the younger she likely is when she becomes sexually active. This is because her secondary sexual characteristics, namely breasts, attract the attention of older boys, and perhaps because she is not able to ignore her developing sex drive indefinitely. She is often less reluctant to have sex than are older girls.
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In general, the longer a young woman waits to explore partnered sex the better off she is. The reason young women should postpone partnered sex is because our society does not prepare them properly for it, not because it is natural for them to wait. We interrupt or preempt the normal sexual development of our girls at birth and then try to postpone it until later in life, when they are at least eighteen and married. When we do return their sexuality we usually hurry it along. Perhaps expecting them to become fully sexual the night of their wedding. When a teenage girl expresses an interest in partnered sex, the pressure is on for her to engage in intercourse. Even if she does other sexual activities in order to postpone this event, it usually occurs too soon. During normal sexual development there would be ten to fifteen years between the times she started exploring sex and her first experience with intercourse. In our society that time span is anywhere from a few minutes to at most a few years.
Women who did become sexually active at a young age usually wish they had waited longer to do so, even if they have positive feelings about those early experiences. Most of these women look back and realize they just were not ready to become sexually active when they did. The reason they were not ready is they did not know enough about sex, and as a result, it was not as enjoyable as it could have been. They usually did not fully develop their basic sexual skills until five, ten, or even twenty years after they started engaging in intercourse. They probably did not masturbate and may have only dabbled in mutual masturbation and oral sex. They did not fully develop these basic skills since they were not supposed to be necessary. While they may have enjoyed sex on an emotional level, orgasm was often absent. This often left them wondering, “Is that all there is?” The expected fireworks were absent.
I wish I could tell young women who read this exactly when they should start exploring their sexuality with a partner, but I cannot. It depends on each young woman’s individual situation. If your parents permitted you to be sexual as a child, you may be sexually active long before you are even able to read this. On the other hand, if you live in a family or community that does not permit young women to be sexual, the social ramifications of your becoming sexual, no matter how much you may desire to, could cause you more harm than good. Sometimes, even if sex is not wrong, it is not right either.
Each woman must determine for herself the right time, without being selfish. If you are not sure if you are ready, then you are not ready and need to wait. It certainly does not harm a young woman to wait until she is in her twenties to start exploring her sexuality with a partner. If anything, given our current society and the risks involved, namely sexually transmitted diseases like AIDS, it’s far better for women to wait. I’m not saying teenage girls should not have sex with a partner, just that is usually a wiser choice if they decide not to. Each girl needs to make this decision for herself.
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